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2007-03-01

 

        成长是一种令人喜悦与振奋的事,它不仅代表着生命的融通与提升,同时也是人生另一种诠释与蜕变。正处于叛逆期的年轻朋友们,一方面觉得已经长大了,可以独立自主:一方面仍需要依赖父母生活。在心理方面希望走向独立,又期待依附在父母亲身边。

异性朋友会不会影响学业?如何与异性朋友相处?如何表达对异性朋友的爱?男女交往的尺度何在?我是不是你最心爱的人?为什么爱神总是忽略我?爱他(她)在心口难开等等。

  此类问题一直困惑着年轻朋友们,造成身心不宁、寝食难安、日夜颠倒等。因而本文的主要用意在于让父母了解青少年可能面临问题的解析与理清迷思,对于两性关系与情感问题有进一步的认识与体会,更重要的是教导孩子珍惜自己、接纳他人,真心真爱过一生,作自己的主人感觉真好。

  爱他(她)在心口难开──喜欢一个人要等他长大 

  年轻朋友在面对异性时,经常会有一种情怀,就是喜欢一个人不知如何表达内心的爱恋,我该如何面对异性?我如何去表达?如何让对方知道我对他的爱,爱在心里口难开。面对此种青涩的情怀或是情窦初开的现象,年轻朋友应该冷静地思考:我真的喜欢他吗?他可是我的最爱?我了解对方吗?对方了解我吗?他有什么优缺点?我了解我自己吗?我能容忍他的任何缺点吗?我能在学业与交异性朋友之间作妥善的安排吗?等问题?因为交异性朋友就牵涉到"作决定"与"负责任"的问题,什么时候作决定较恰当?什么时候作决定较完美?什么时候交异性朋友较理想等都是必须深入去考虑的议题,在身心尚未发展成熟时就交异性朋友不但对自己的成长没有帮助,相对地会影响并阻碍各方面的发展。

  更重要的是,此时期无法为自己作的决定负责,必须由父母或他人来承担后果,一时的激情必须以终生的幸福作为赌注。因此,喜欢一个人要等他长大,也要等自己长大。

  只要我喜欢有什么不可以──其实你伤了父母心 

  年轻朋友最常挂在嘴上的一句口头禅"只要我喜欢有什么不可以",我是我自己,您说左我就要说右!您说黑我就要说白!您说我错,我就要错!我就要自己错错看!年轻的心就是飞扬的心,年轻岁月不要留白,只要我喜欢有什么不可以。在此种情怀与逻辑推理中,只要男女相爱,永结同心,海誓山盟,在一起有何不可?殊不知,年轻的心是飞扬的心,同时也是脆弱的心,容易受到伤害,而影响一生的发展。

  圆满的人生发展是一种"你OK、我OK"的最高境界,当你作任何事,任何决定时除了考虑自己也要顾虑他人,我如此作对自己对亲人、对他人有无影响?是建设性的影响或是破坏性的影响。行为的后果如果利人利己则何乐不为,如果损人利己或是损己利人等都应该慎重考虑。

  最佳男(女)主角换人作作看就会体会出他人的心与了解他人的立场。因为"只要我喜欢有什么不可以,其时你伤了父母心"。

  其实您不懂我的心──所以我要您懂我的心 

  代沟不是年龄的差距,而是思想的远离",有很多年轻朋友自觉举天之下,无一知音,父母、师长都不懂我的心,不知道我要的是什么?不了解我的需求?不清楚我的困惑?总是苛责多于鼓励、要求多于倾听,无法深入地与我谈心等。

  不管怎样,其实您不懂我的心。其实,两代之间的代沟可以透过相互沟通与接纳,求得生命的融通。在适当的时机,年轻朋友应该适度地表达自己的看法,倾诉自己的内心世界与需求,让他人也能清楚地了解你的生命舞台。人与人之间的相处不就是靠不断的沟通与协调吗?

  真心真爱过一生──作自己的主人感觉真好 

  青少年时期的爱是一种"少年不识愁滋味,为赋新词强说愁"、"少女情怀总是梦、少男情怀总是诗"的爱。对于此种懵懵懂懂的爱,有点黏又不会太黏的爱总是令人向往与憧憬。有些人为爱梦一生,有些人为爱废寝忘食,有些人为爱荒废学业、有些人为爱壮士断腕,有些人为爱付出一生的代价,而这些人从不懂得真爱,也从未拥有真爱。

  真爱是一种珍惜自己、接纳他人的高尚情操,真爱不是一种身体的占有,而是精神方面的相互支持。有了真爱才能真正作自己的主人。

  不一样就是不一样──相互尊重与接纳融通

  青少年时期另一种情怀是对异性感到相当的好奇,由好奇而衍生爱慕的情怀,更而希望拥有对方的一切。产生爱是一种占有,而不是牺牲奉献的心理,误认为爱是种享受权利而忽略尽义务的层面。以自己认为理所当然的方式表达对异性的爱,或是相互传达爱的讯息。其实爱的真谛是一种异性相互尊重与接纳融通的情怀,透过对异性的了解与接纳,相互陪伴成长,走过人生最尴尬的时期与最焦虑不安的阶段。如此,才是圆融的两性关系与情感的表达。
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